Christmas cards from someone who forgot your present

There is a particular kind of Christmas shame that comes at 4pm on the 24th, when you realise you have forgotten somebody. A card from someone who forgot your present is the honest, slightly sheepish way to say sorry, and to promise something better in the new year.

Sign it as the forgetful one, add a few lines of humble apology, and send it as a link by email or text. It suits the brother, the best friend, the neighbour and the aunt who always remembers yours. Do not make excuses. Make a small promise. Mention a date, a coffee or a dinner you can actually keep.

5 things to write inside

Swap in their name. Change anything that doesn’t sound like you.

  1. funny Merry Christmas, [first name]. I forgot your present. This is the present. It is a card. It is also an apology. I will make it up to you with food, in January.
  2. sweet Dear [first name], I have no present, and I feel dreadful. You are always so thoughtful. Please accept this card and my love, and let me take you out for dinner soon.
  3. funny [first name], I had a plan. The plan was good. The plan did not happen. Please accept my sincere apology and a promise of a very large gift voucher, eventually.
  4. rude [first name], I forgot your present, and I am a bit of a bastard for it. I am sorry. Merry Christmas. Wine is on me when I see you. All of it.
  5. quiet [first name], I let it slip, and I am sorry. You mean more to me than a gift would say. I will make it right. For now, a card and a very warm Merry Christmas.

Questions people ask

What do I say when I forget someone's Christmas present?

Own it plainly, apologise once and make a concrete promise. A card that says I forgot and I am sorry, here is what I will do, works better than a long excuse. Then actually do it.

Is a digital card an acceptable last-minute gift?

A card is not a present, so do not pretend it is. It is a kind, quick way to say the thought was there. Pair it with a real promise, like dinner or a coffee, and the person will forgive you quickly.

Can I send the card on Christmas morning?

Yes. You can schedule it for Christmas morning, and the recipient opens it like an envelope. It means you do not have to wake up and send it at the last minute, with a guilty face and a pending phone call.